Boy Erased

Boy Erased

DVD - 2019
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Boy Erased tells the courageous story of Jared Eamons, the son of a Baptist pastor in a small American town, who must overcome the fallout of being outed to his parents. His parents struggle with reconciling their love for their son with their beliefs. Fearing a loss of family, friends, and community, Jared is pressured into attending a conversion therapy program. While there, Jared comes into conflict with its leader and begins his journey to finding his own voice and accepting his true self.


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Sep 15, 2020

This is mostly a dime-store version of a "conversion therapy" session. I found that I just couldn't relate to the bathetic over-reaction of the parents and the irritating sad-sack personality of the hero. Being of this nature, it also had to have a feel-good ending, which ruined any existential statement it wanted to make.
Two thumbs down to Xavier Dolan, who played the dork with the s**t-eating grin that rapes our pathetic hero.
There was a premise repeated in the film: "fake it until you make it". It does not seem to have been carried out.

Dec 04, 2019

Very hard to watch b/c of the subject matter, but an excellent film. It moved slowly but it was compelling enough to hold my interest throughout (which is saying a lot!). All of the performances were wonderful and as I said the subject matter really got to me. This isn't a bad thing, but I found myself getting into the movie and getting angry at the situations and people that made those situations happen. I really enjoyed the music played throughout the film and Nicole Kidman and Russell Crowe were the best I've ever seen them. It's somewhat disturbing to think that this is a true story, but it's a very good movie and much, much better than I expected. I liked that there weren't any graphic scenes and that the swearing was kept to a minimum. There are a lot of swear words, but in a way they kind of added to the movie's power.

VaughanPLDonnalee Nov 22, 2019

This is a small but powerful film. There are no splashy effects, no big chase scenes. This is a family drama, based on a true story, about the son of a small town Baptist preacher who is sent to a church-sponsored gay conversion program. Lucas Hedges as the son and Nicole Kidman and Russell Crowe as his parents were all superb and very convincing. I like how this movie didn't go for the obvious choices and reduce the parents to caricatures, but allowed all the main characters to be complex. It's not a super fun movie to watch, but I thought it was very good.

Oct 10, 2019

I found this movie difficult to watch. The ridged thinking of the boy's father, his attitude of hell and damnation, my way or the highway type of parenting was upsetting. The "conversion therapy" was bullying, demeaning and cruel. The acting was suburb, Russell Crowe and Nichole Kidman were perfect as the parents. Lucas Hedges was fantastic as their son.

Sep 28, 2019



Man proposes; God disposes... Truly this holds true in this film which portrays a Baptist preacher who rethinks his love for his son in view of their differences. Great actors and acting complement the scenes therein.



Sep 09, 2019

AN excellent story. I had one problem with it however. The sequencing could be confusing to many. There are scenes which take place in the past but the viewer is not given any indication that the scenes are in flashback. There is absolutely no valid reason to do that. Otherwise I feel the movie is worthwhile watching. It covers a very important subject.

Aug 13, 2019

The film's entirety chose to shove down our throat the moronic, evil thinking and actions of certain people toward homosexuality. On the other side the film stood ground on wanting the viewers to believe people are 'born homosexual'. Crowe tells his son that he truly loves him but won't accept the lifestyle that he chose. God told all of us the same thing: "I love you with an everlasting love" but that doesn't mean you can come live with Me, that's why I created everlasting Hell. Is a murderer 'born a murderer'? Is a rapist, thief, homewrecker, born a rapist, thief and homewrecker? Is one who teaches idol worshipping free of sin...because he was 'born a Hindu'? All the rules have been set down by God for centuries and all these excuses as to why we should be excused from obeying them started out with Satan when he asked Eve, "Surely, God didn't mean 'that'"? And Eve, lusting after 'that' CHOSE to disobey. We are all here to learn how to live AS it is in Heaven or we teach ourselves how to live AS it is in Hell. Absolutely everything is always a choice. We can cherry pick what we want to believe and live by or we can accept the fact that every word in that Bible is true and must be obeyed. That was the gist of Crowe's sermon.

Jul 13, 2019

WE have two people to thank for this movie:
Garrard Conley, whose memoir inspired it. And Joel Edgerton who wrote the script, directed the movie and starred in it as well, much like he did on The Gift in 2015. That makes it very close to a one-man movie--similar to his hugely successful 2015 hit, The Gift.

This time, there's a third man to thank for making the movie as compelling as it is: the young star of the film, Lucas Hedges, (Oscar-nominated for Manchester By the Sea; Lady Bird; Three Billboards Outside Ebbing Missouri.)

Edgerton's script about the angst and horror produced by anti-gay Conversion Therapy (still legal in some Canadian provinces)--resulted in a four-way bidding war. Focus Features won. What Focus gets--at least, 10 months after the movie's release--is mostly prestige bragging rights. Gay issues can mean big box office (Milk, 2008 was huge money-maker--over twice its cost), but things can change rapidly and this movie wasn't the "ground-breaker" that Milk was for Focus Features, 10 years before. This film barely broke even--likely a small loss for Focus.

Don't let that deter you from seeing it. It's a very good film, and Hedges is outstanding--again. A good performance also by Nicole Kidman as the boy's mother.

You may not wish to see this movie if your faith means you believe homosexuality is NOT genetic predisposition, but something "learned" which can be "unlearned" through Conversion Therapy. But--again--don't let that deter you unnecessarily. At the very least, it might be instructive for to see how the "cure" affects some of the "afflicted."

Jul 08, 2019

Important story. The things that happen in the United States surprises me.

Jun 22, 2019

What a considered and considerate film. It's delicate and gifted with each frame done with a kindness and thoughtfulness as a family struggles to stand in its own truth against a backdrop of hate-filled ignorance bordering the demonic. Superb acting throughout.

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Apr 04, 2019

Program leader speaks to new group, Part 1 of 4
Morning. Hi. Sinful, salacious, and extraneous materials. All reading material and films and television are off limits while inside the program. I am using sexual sin and homosexuality to fill a God-shaped void in my life. … But I am not broken, and God loves me. … Good. That is very true. Now somebody tell me what this is.
-A dollar.
A dollar. Now, no matter how much you crumple up a dollar bill, you can never take away its value. Now even if you were to rip it, which would represent our being severed from Christ, well, guess what? You can always tape it back together. Jesus puts us back together. And even though there is a scar, our value does not change. You are somebody. … You are worth something. … And that is a fact. …

Apr 04, 2019

Program leader speaks to new group, Part 2 of 4
Now, this may be the toughest, but most rewarding 12 days that many of you will ever face. But we have just one task, to bring ourselves back to God. To invite him back in. To understand how he truly meant to create us before all those pieces got torn away. Now, look, I know the road here wasn't easy for many of you. But I promise a smoother ride now that you're here. Because we are about to go on an amazing journey together. So, who's ready? That was a question. Who's ready? Say amen!
Amen! If you know you're worth a dollar, say amen!

Apr 04, 2019

Program leader speaks to new group, Part 3 of 4
Welcome to the Refuge program! Come on! That's right, great souls! Great! Now, I'm gonna tell you something that's gonna make you immediately feel a little better. People tell you… you can be born gay, that's not true. You cannot be born a homosexual, this is a lie. Now, I'm a counselor and a pastor, but was I born that way? No. It's behavioral. It's a choice. Cameron, you, you, uh, play football? Yeah?
- Yeah.
Were you born that way?
- No.
No. Now, you chose to be a football player, right? It's behavior. Now, if you... If Cameron stops playing football, he no longer is a football player. We gotta learn for ourselves where behavior comes from so we can cut it out and then we can no longer be labeled that way. Now, who can tell us what a genogram is?

Apr 04, 2019

Program leader speaks to new group, Part 4 of 4
Phillip. Well, a genogram is like a family tree... Mmm. ...only one that shows patterns of family behavior as well. Sort of like an illustrated one. Yes. Now, we are going to draw our family tree and we're gonna list next to these people their behavioral sin. So, they made us and they labeled us, so we're gonna label them. Michael, can you read the behavioral sins? We use the letters SSA or H to label same sex attraction or homosexuality, D for drugs, a dollar sign for gambling, A, alcoholism, P, promiscuity, M, mental illness, capital A, lowercase B for abortion, capital P, lowercase O for pornography, and C or G, criminal or gang affiliation. You're forgetting DV, domestic violence. Capital D, lowercase V,


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