The Gift of Fear

The Gift of Fear

Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence

Book - 1997
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A carjacker lurking in a shopping mall parking lot. An abusive husband pounding on the door. A disgruntled employee brandishing a gun. These days, no one is safe from the specter of violence. But according to Gavin de Becker, everyone can feel safer, act safer, be safer -- if they learn how to listen to their own sixth sense about danger.

De Becker has made a career of protecting people and predicting violent behavior. His firm handles security for many of Hollywood's top celebrities -- Madonna, Michael J. Fox, Geena Davis, Brooke Shields, and John Travolta, among others, according to press reports -- and his computerized risk-assessment system helps analyze threats to members of Congress and the Supreme Court. Now, in this unprecedented guide, de Becker shares his expertise with everyone. Covering all the dangerous situations people typically face -- street crime, domestic abuse, violence in the workplace -- de Becker provides real-life examples and offers specific advice on restraining orders, self-defense, and more. But the key to self-protection, he demonstrates, is learning how to trust -- and act on -- our own intuitions. For everyone who's ever felt threatened, this book is essential reading.

Baker & Taylor
A personal security expert and behavioral consultant discusses the dangerous situations individuals may face, explains how to use the power of intuition to identify and avoid danger, and shares advice on restraining orders, self-defense tactics, and more. 75,000 first printing. Tour.

Blackwell North Amer
Gavin de Becker, the nation's leading expert on predicting violent behavior, proves that we are all qualified to answer life's highest-stakes questions. "True fear is a gift," he says, because it is a survival signal that sounds only in the presence of danger; yet unwarranted fear has assumed a power over us that it holds over no other creature on earth. It need not be this way.

& Taylor

Explains how to use the power of intuition to identify and avoid danger and shares advice on restraining orders and self-defense tactics

Publisher: Boston : Little, Brown, c1997
Edition: 1st ed
ISBN: 9780316235020
Characteristics: viii, 334 p. ; 24 cm


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Aug 06, 2016

This book is so helpful at helping ones to understand violence and how we unintentionaly add to it by glamorizing it.

May 20, 2016

Recommended in Amy Poehler's book.

Mar 10, 2015

Incredible book, I plan on buying my own copy.
Clear writing style.
Author passionate about and experienced in subject matter.
Loved it!
(I gave it four stars rather than five because I am a female firearms instructor and disagree with his feelings on firearms)

rowanquincy Feb 28, 2015

Excellent book full of good advice. I plan on buying my own copy.

Jun 13, 2013

Every young woman should read this book...

Oct 19, 2012

Worthwhile book for everyone to read; it not only helps to deal with people who might be dangerous, but it offers insight and advice on scary co-workers and employees. Some excellent advice on how to recognize the signs of violent or dangerous behavior. Also, very easy to read book full of helpful stories.

LauraGrowNyberg Jun 11, 2012

An absolute must-read, but slightly dated. I would buy a 2012 edition for so many people I know.

Mar 28, 2012

This book is truly a gift for anyone who is tormented by fear. Fear is truly a gift, it will save you if you heed it. The book became a compulsive read from page 1 through 300.

Mar 25, 2012

Few books are "essential reading" (On the Origin of Species? The Boy Scout Handbook?) The Gift of Fear is one of this exclusive company. Far from being a wicky-wacky New Age production (see virtually all books listed in this catalogue under "intuition"), it is a guide to using your own good sense and good judgement to avoid life's pitfalls, and to overcome the forces of denial. Mr. de Becker examines the topic not only as a government and private security adviser, but also as an abused child and juvenile delinquent. On top of this, The Gift of Fear is well-written and entertaining, in a dark way.

Mar 03, 2012

A book about your intuition. How to again listen to your body giving you a signal. Invaluable to everyone.

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Mar 10, 2015

pg 64: “’No’ is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you.”

Mar 10, 2015

pg 69: “Remember, the nicest guy, the guy with no self-serving agenda whatsoever, the one who wants nothing from you, won’t approach you at all. You are not comparing the man who approaches you to all men, the vast majority of whom have no sinister intent. Instead, you are comparing him to other men who make unsolicited approaches to women alone, or to other men who don’t listen when you say no.”

Mar 10, 2015

pg 58: “We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning. Like rapport building, charm, and the deceptive smile, unsolicited niceness often has a discoverable motive.”

Mar 25, 2012

My childhood wasn't a movie, of course, though it did have chase sequences, fight scenes, shoot-outs, skyjacking, life-and-death suspense, and suicide. The plot didn't make much sense to me as a boy, but it does now.

Mar 25, 2012

We want to believe that with all the possible combinations of human beings and human feelings, predicting violence is as difficult as picking the winning lottery ticket, yet it is usually isn't difficult at all. We want to believe that human violence is somehow beyond our understanding, because as long as it remains a mystery, we have no duty to avoid it, explore it, or anticipate it. We need feel no responsibility for failing to read signals if there are none to read. We can tell ourselves that violence just happens without warning, and usually to others, but in service of these comfortable myths, victims suffer and criminals prosper.


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